Yaaaaaay for Science (and I say that being your more mystic type lol)

She's screwed! But not by you! And for that my friend...you have the chance of a bright and wonderful future. That said, women are "funny...(pause)...creatures".

Take my wife (not literally of course) for example...she has gone to her sisters for 5 days and I am home alone.



Huhm! Can you send her over to see me?

Sex is a damn hindrance to being properly human. A damn hindrance, I say!

Now where did I put my "the machine" and my spice? That business beats sex and science!

Tesla was asexual, although he did have a strange love affair with pigeons.
Nevertheless, the absense of a pubescent-like infatuation with TnA led to his
endless pursuit of scientific excellence; indeed, he was far ahead of his time.
One of the greatest minds ever.

I find this funny because I can relate. When I want to focus on something say school or some project, I usually take a silent oath to be abstinent until I can finish. Usually after I do this every girl wants a piece of me, not before

Be careful with alcohol. If she's intoxicated, there are major consent issues you need to be aware of.
As a personal rule-of-thumb, I don't hook up with anyone who is under the influence of anything unless 1) I've gotten verbal confirmation from them that it was fine, when they were sober, or 2) it's someone I've known for a really long time and there is a precedent of sexual interactions.

I can fool around with my girlfriend when we're both drunk, because we've gotten to that point, but unless it's a circumstance where you feel 100% it would be okay, I would stick to your books.

Blessings
~ND

^^ on that same note I know someone who had sex with a girl while they were both drunk, the next morning her friend was jealous and made her feel guilty. The girl ended up pressing rape charges and the guy I know is still tied up in court although she certainly seemed into him prior to the following morning.

I get the problem with the consent issue but i am ashamed to say that if i took up this rule of thumb i may never have had a girlfriend in my entire life. If someone gets drunk and decides to sleep with you then they have to take the consequences. I am not saying that it is good to get someone paralytic and then wade in while they are passed out. But, more often than not, alcohol just helps to oil the rusty gears of the libidinous mind and loosens an otherwise shy toungue.

If someone decides to sleep with you while they are drunk and then cries wolf later on they could very well be one sandwich short of a picnic and should be steered well clear of.

Oh, I know. That particular night, she wasn't all that drunk (like she wasn't going to wake up the next day having no idea what had happened the night before). Also, she kind of falls into the second category. We have somewhat of a history of sexual interactions on and off for the last 6-7 years, but more recently I have been pretty clear with her that I am not interested in that type of relationship at this time.

So let me get this straight, and please correct me if i am wrong. Because i could be. Youv"e been casually banging this woman for 7 years and now she rings you up when she is drunk. I wonder why she calls you while intoxicated? Dutch courage methinks.
You tell her you are no longer into the casual sex thing as you need to do your research.
Not only that but you tell her that you don"t like to be around drunk people, when she is probably drunk to sweeten the bitter pill of rejection.

After 7 years!!!!! 7 years !!!!! The poor woman is clearly in love with you. Brother you really know how to treat a girl.

Having said all that i am just speculating and perhaps reading too much in between the lines of your posts.

And with that paradigm shift Hug46 hits it outta the ball park

It's not like I've been hooking up with her consistently for 7 years, we have been intimate maybe 4 or 5 times over the course of those 7 years. And when she recently moved back to town I made it very clear to her that in order to maintain my own personal wellbeing regarding substances and other bad habits, I feel I need to avoid casual sex and people under the influence. She's not in love with me, she's just looking for someone to fall back on after separating from the guy she's more likely in love with.

My god! Youv"e been doing it with her behind her fella"s back! That"s even worse!!!

But seriously, my finger wagging comments are a little toungue in cheek. And as your story unfolds less speculation on my part is necessary. I know you"ll do the right thing for you.

Of course not, I'm not into the whole sneaking around thing. We have not been physical since before she was with that guy. I thank you for your contribution, and humorous responses.

Personally Id make the human connection and see your friend. I take whatever chance I can to communicate with the people around me, but that's just my nature