Darwin says that we are all evolving, competing for mates and that the only measure of success is how many viable offspring we produce. that's nice and simple then, as the bible says 'be fruitful and multiply.'

But religious people believe in values such as monogamy; which directly inhibits your ability to produce offspring with a wide and varied selection of genes, such as would be considered good genetic practice; Yet it is extremely common among birds.

- birds, humans, also spend a lot of time and effort contributing to the tending of their offspring, ensuring their survival.

And then there are religious, spiritual, and new-age (also hindu) thinkers who say that we are all one and the same anyway! So why even bother to reproduce?

WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON?

Everyone knows when they are falling in love, but love makes not even an attempt at thinking about your existing mate. It cares not a jot how confused things will become, what an epic decision it lands on your plate. It just shows up, and it is there, Its is present. It is one of those emotions which can be present strongly for two parties. In different ways, and make not even the slightest attempt to the beholder to explain what right and wrong is, or which would lead to happiness, and which to failure. Is everyone doing this? Wandering around in this sort of perpetual "Who do I love now?" Sort of state? - Let me clarify, she has told me allready that she has feelings for me.

Should we allow our tried and tested, well established relationships to be blown out of the water? No, of course not. but what about when a much better deal comes along? how far can you examine somone, to assess their potential without being rude? To what extent can you determine someones potential, just by being with them and asking questions? and to what extent does the memories you have had, the experiences you have had together with your current partner count for, when the relationship is only functional half of the time?

"Comes love, nothing can be done"

Comes a rainstorm, put your rubbers on your feet
Comes a snowstorm, you can get a little heat
Comes love, nothing can be done.

Comes a fire, then you know just what to do
Blow a tire, you can buy another shoe
Comes love, nothing can be done

Don't try hiding, cause there isn't any use
You'll start sliding, when your heart turns on the juice

Comes a headache, you can lose it in a day
Comes a toothache, see your dentist right away
Comes love, nothing can be done

Comes a heatwave, you can hurry to the shore
Comes a summons, you can hide behind the door
Comes love, nothing can be done

Comes the measles, you can quarantine a room
Comes a mousey, you can chase it with a broom
Comes love, nothing can be done

That's all, brother, if you ever been in love
That's all, brother, you know what I'm speaking of

Comes a nightmare, you can always stay awake
Comes depression, you may get another break
Comes love, nothing can be done
Comes love, nothing can be done
Comes love, nothing can be done

well, I would sure as hell love to know... ...if anyone here can answer that question for me that would be great!

what the hell is going on....I sit here, but my spirits dancing in that golden glow of love, which really does radiate like some impermeable light.

Learn to think positively, break energy control, manifest your thoughts and actions. Then the right path will come easily, without decision or motive. Positive manifestation through ones self analysis will always lead you towards your path.

OriginalFace: Thankyou so much for the poem, that was beautiful. Did you write it just then and there, for me? Or by 'shoe' do you mean another wheel?

fractal enchanment: thankyou for confirming my thoughts, that is exactly the issue. Comes love, nothing can be done!

Czepa: thankyou for the help, I appreciate the reminder. Its great isn't it!

house: deeper meditation required to fully understand your post, I get the general idea.

Is everyone doing this? Wandering around in this sort of perpetual "Who do I love now?" Sort of state? Should we allow our tried and tested, well established relationships to be blown out of the water? No, of course not. but what about when a much better deal comes along? to what extent does the memories you have had, the experiences you have had together with your current partner count for, when the relationship is only functional half of the time?

I wish I could write like that. Those are the lyrics to "Comes Love", an old jazz standard from the 1930's. Love has been around for a long time even though we think we're the only ones it happens to.

Btw, shoe was old time slang for tire.

OF

Not sure what the hell is up but MR. Horse is pretty amusing

I stole it from b3ta...

he's so cute huh?

shoe, are you confusing lust with love? decide weather you really DO love someone depending on what the said person bases their actions upon. do you support their way of thinking? for self or for others? you've also got to ask that to yourself.

Thankyou Czepa, for the sensible advice. Actually, a friend of mine called up the love/lust question too. Thing is, i've lusted after people before but this wasn't like that at all. I don't know, obviously, its hard to tell how deep feelings go without knowing the other person fully. But its a bit of a catch-22, if you're not in love then you can't fully know them right down to the bone. And if you're in love with somone else, then there isn't that opportunity.

At odds to me, seems to be the "its the eternal moment of now" way of thinking and the sensible "i'd best look out for the future" way of thinking.