Yeah. I'm definitely looking for the latter also. I've become less and less able to embrace the idea of tripping with anyone. I have on friend who I do dmt+harmala work with, but we take turns and it's serious business. We sit for each other and take notes if we need to. He is a special friend. My cosmic twin, who is half my age. The age thing you mentioned is important too. While my friend is 25, and over clocked from my perspective, he has the ability to dial it back, and I speed up, and we meet in the middle.
I want to talk with people who are on the same page as far as harm reduction and myriad forms of caution go. I don't want to be in a room with people who are tripping, willy nilly at Applebees or whatever

Like I said, I don't mind younger people. My 13 year old's friends love me to a degree that makes my child uncomfortable. They don't want their friends to think their old ass dad is cool. Which is hilarious to me.
I just want to make sure I am not in a room with someone who has an ounce of 2-cb in their pocket because they sell it, and are putting everyone in the group in legal jeopardy.
I also want to have cultural (pop and otherwise) touchstones in common, so there isn't undue alienation snd wated time, explaining who the Beatles are. That being said: young blood is important. For many reasons. Fresh perspectives, in both directions. And to be totally honest, as I get older, it gets harder to locate certain things. That could be a plus.. or a minus, considering levels of discretion.
I feel like I'm sounding like a snob. Maybe I am. I just want to talk to thoughtful people, who take this stuff seriously. Sorry if I sound ageist. If I found a group of 20 year olds who were doing important work and were really integrating and holding space for a responsible and growing community, I'd be happy.
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