I'd say just make the intention to connect with them. And write it out, writing it out seems to make intentions stick better. Intend to become one with them, then do the work, just know it's not all fun and games, this is serious self work. When I was in my dark night, I pretty much went crazy for a couple of months. Before I understood what was going on, my fear, uncertainty and the ego fighting back made things very confusing. It would've been much better had a been with a shaman, to guide me. I made myself look pretty stupid in front of someone I love, and I hope once I grow enough I can revisit her. But in a way I had to loose it all to appreciate what I have now. I'm greatful.