I have been meaning to write this post for a few days as I am at a bit of a crossroads in life that I'm sure many nexians also stand at, or have passed.

I am 24 and don't see any clear obvious direction career or job wise in my future. I graduated college with a history degree 2 years ago and have been living with parents and landscaping full-time[except 3 months off for winter] for pocket change ever since. I am beginning to become anxious about moving out as most of my friends have well-paying careers and are living on their own or will be very shortly.

I know I do not want to landscape for much longer as it is already taking a toll on my body as it is a hardcore new construction planting job [not your typical lawn-mowing business] where we dig holes and carry hundreds of pounds of plants all day. (Feeling it in my back) And the 18,000 a year I make would be a bit of a struggle to live off in my area.

I have developed many hobbies(electronic music production, writing, reading many books at a time, tantric sex practice, cycling, lifting, and holistic health) along with a solid spiritual practice(meditation, yoga, reichian body work, entheogenic use/extraction) but I don't really see myself as proficient enough in any of these to take it to the level of a career.

I am not quite sure if I want to really hold out for a job I am passionate about, or just find something doable and steady and enjoy my hobbies in my off-time.

Most of my friends just jumped into some kind of office job that makes a decent paycheck but none of them really live the dream and work in something they enjoy. I am wondering if I should just suck it up and get a teaching certification and teach Highschool History for a steady paycheck; something I would not despise but doesn't enamor me...

I would love some advice or guidance from older more established Nexians or those my own age who are in the same boat. I'm sure advice in this thread will be helpful to many others along with myself.

What led you into finding a career you enjoy? Or atleast can stand...

If you don't enjoy your job what do you do to make life worth living?

Any advice on flowing with the path of material life and careers; finding your way in the world?

It's funny because I seem to be right on track and satisfied with my spiritual progress but the material world is really intimidating me for some reason I feel like I could do anything if I put my mind to it, but, I don't know what I want to do...Sometimes I think I am afraid to puff up my ego with achievements of this sort...which could be a foolish fear.

Any advice greatly appreciated!

don't worry , its all going to turn out well
worry will only cause more damage , just be confident in your abilities as an individual to be able to live life ,

they best thing to do is work hard and keep looking for oppertunities that match your interests and live life from a more fullfilling view

i apologise for the vagueness of my post , perhaps i am as confused as you are No Knowing about all this

i am 29 , living alone , have no job apparently trying to pursue a career in art , living on money made from my previous work similar to office jobs your friends have picked up , i am still thinking whether to start working on my previous job as i have been somewhat good and people would appreciate that i come back ,

as of yet i am too stoned to make a decison , however i had been working really hard for past 5 years and need a break aswell , i have been living alone from the same timeaswell

i don't know , .... do what you do to make the best of it

hobbies

<disclaimer... I'm 38 and by no means have I found nirvana yet. so read the following with a grain or two of salt>


I'm 38 and have had plenty of 'success' by the materialistic definition. Absolutely none of said success has ever brought me an ounce of happiness. My non-materialistic successes have brought more happiness and personal growth. Unfortunately, some include things I wouldn't have been able to do unless I had the financial means to do so.

For example I have started several companies that went under, made video games that flopped, and stumbled blindly through a failing marriage while raising three kids. On my death bed, I will have more pride of accomplishment and personal growth around those struggles than the $$ made by successfully working the materialist system. On the flip-side, without working the materialist system, I wouldn't have been able to afford the luxury of starting companies, making games that flopped, learning how to fly, or any number of other things which have made me who I am now.

My son is now 18 and struggling with what he wants to do in life. I can only offer to him the same non-answer. Life is a journey we all have to blaze our own path through. There is not a right or wrong answer.

From a 38 y/o perspective having a self imposed responsibility of a wife and three children and allowing myself to be a prisoner to a lifestyle I don't want to give up -- Being in my twenties and having room and board provided by parents while being able to pursue hobbies, friendships, and dabble between different jobs sounds pretty damn fun!

^^^^^I agree with this. Or travel, see the world and have a think about what you want to do.

i agree , infact it only get more lonely as you start living alone , i have been on a vaction of sorts for last three months , having quit my job out of frustration of sitting on the chair and looking at pc allday , its so boring

for past 5 years all this has afforded me enough money to live alone , have my own place and all that , yet i miss my family , eversince i started working and living alone , i've lost all relationships including romantic ones aswell as friends

these days i wonder if i am the same happy person who could Trip on LSD all day , dance , wake up in the morning and brush my teeth with alchol , have sex the first thing in the morning continuing till late afternoon and shit or even more

what has happened is now i wake up to an alarm , alone on my bed , make breakfast and its just very lonely , i've quit work and am trying to focus now on what i've been missing

also whenever i get sick there is nobody to take care of me and i am almost dying alone many a times this has happened

This is what we all hope for, no? If we can't do what we're passionate about, then AT LEAST something simple, steady which pays enough to sustain our hobbys. But in reality, it seems that most available jobs are boring/horrible, yet consume all of your available time. I guess the healthiest compromise would be to work minimum wage jobs while working on your dreams and living under your means.

I'm in the same boat. 30ish and no applicable skills. I really fear for the future because i'm also bad at handling people. So what does one do without money, friends, family at the age of..say 60...with a fragile and weak body ? I can only encourage you to muster up all the courage you have and go all in. I'm trying to come up with that courage myself.

i am hesitant to join..

not that i see any alternative but... that doesn't make me any less hesitant.

Great advice!

No Knowing, I know how you feel. I just turned 21. I'm living with some roommates and working a menial job. One where I stare at a computer all day. I recently have started really thinking about what I want in life. Hope everything works out for you buddy!