"and maybe finally if you could give a single piece of advice, what would that advice be."
The FAQ section of this site would be the best place to start, a lot of your questions can be answered there.
*The above text represents a fictional alter ego, none of it is based on the experiences of a real person.*
"Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation." Oscar Wilde