I questionned my self this question long enough and finally I received answers:

The I needs to go away and give another I space which can easily deal with what the previous I believed to be impossible.

with feelings only towards the future and the now, instead of having old experiences loopback into your emotional body.

Last but not least, being open to any new impulse and situation and living on it! Make your life honest and happy.

kyro, I believe this type of mindset is incorporated in the " making it happen " philosophy of Goal setting, goal planning, dealing with setbacks, and always onwards and upwards. Currently suggested by almost all self help books as a way of self improvement.

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Yes everything is possible if you really want it and believe in it. But is is not only the past that can be in the way also the future. Both of them don't exist. Only the now is real.There was not and never will be a time when you were not or you wont be in now. So I would say living in now is the key. And I agree with honesty and happiness. Definitely the way to go.

The interesting point about goal setting, is that it teaches you to "look towards the future". Because without a future pull, you look down, or back. The future vision creates the forward momentum which makes life something to look forward to, and enjoy moment to moment, and keep moving ahead.

-Like this, there is no room for regrets or fear to develop, because you don't have time to feed these negative energies. The only thing you have in your life is "positive time"..

-wELL, that's what i made of one read on goal setting, anyhow. :-)