what's wrong with chemistry? most cops are too dumb to know what the molecular structure even means. It's funny, you don't see heroin users tattooing themselves like psychedelic users ;}

no need for them to get tattoo's they have needle marks

I made a promise to myself now, that with women my policy is ya take it or leave it. Being me is too important to me to go half way for other people. Don't half way your life. Show up for your life. If people cant accept it than they cant accept it. You are either all the way in or your all the way out. There is too much fun to be had to be fence sitting.

Of course that is just myself, and in work relationships sometimes saying less is more..but then I am not sleeping with my boss or his clients, and they are paying me..and I don't have to see any of them after work.

Trying to be anything other than myself in my life has never failed to make me miserable.

This is totally relevant, about DMT and in long-term relationships in general. People change; you will and your significant other will. It's less important that you have the same interests than it is that you can be honest about who you are and are supportive of one another's interests, whatever those may evolve into. Key words- Honest and Supportive.

I have been married for 10 years, met my husband 8 years prior to that when we were 19 and 25. Even at 19 I thought most of my psychedelic days were in the past. Fast forward 15 years later, and a total transformation happened for me that led me back to the plant teachers. My husband is a casual participant at most, but he supports all of it and I don't have to hide.

If you have to hide the truth about who you are now, the test of time will prove to be nearly impossible. It's rough for you males, being a majority in the psychedelic community, but it's worth holding out for a partner who accepts you and has the flexibility to grow with you through time.

Nothing wrong with good old being honest with other people,

but saying a stranger about DMT ? I would not talk about it till I knew someone better.

Perhaps ask what drugs mean to her. A lot of people have the unfortunate misunderstanding, that every drug is crazy addictive, toxic and basically destroys its user. Also, its how you phrase it.

I'm not into drugs, but i'm very much interested in alternative medicine. To me, that is not a lie, why should i phrase something beautiful in a almost derogatory way?

I also have to say that if she doesn't accept it or even fails to "get" it, i have no interest in pursuing a long time relationship.

I have always been honest about it although it makes it more difficult, she really does not understand and if i try to explain she thinks im crazy and a "druggie"

we have a child together so this make it all the more complicated matter

It's hard to make the claim of alternative medicine when maybe I just want to eat acid at the back of some sweaty rave and dance all night in the most ghetto part of town with people who are at best, half dressed. I don't care what people call it...drugs or medicine. Accept me or don't, cus sometimes that is what I do. It's not how I usually work with these things..medicine might fit most of my context of use...but maybe not all.

"My life has been so totally about drugs that I couldn't imagine it any other way"

-Terrence Mckenna

I'm not a junkie..I very rarely drink and even then it's a glass of wine..I want to be judged for me, not for how I dress up my actions with words. I understand what you mean though obliguhl..I just think that in the end that would come back to bite you in the ass. You want full acceptance or it's gunna get ugly in my experience.

Ah, sorry. I know I quoted you, but I didn't mean the response to sound like it was directed at you in particular. I really intended it to be advice for those starting or seeking new relationships. Poor communication on my part- apologies!

I'm single now and reentering the world of male /female dynamics. My last relationship started in a drug treatment clinic, so the discussion was irrelevant. However, learning from that egregious mistake, I've chosen to stay away from women who are suffering from the same addiction i once did and am looking at more 'normal' choices.

I've made two connections through an online dating site (yeah, yeah. ..) and had no small bit of anxiety around my drug use and how i would tell these women. While i used to engage in all sorts of profligate activity, my life now is considerably more wholesome, and while it's a little off point, after coming to terms with my addiction i feel that i live with more intent and compassion than most people who've never been through that. That addiction was a huge part of my life and contributes greatly to who i am today, sans use.

It was DMT that finally put me on the path to healing, and it's a huge part of my life now. I'm a writer and an artist, and a large part of my output is around this subject. I have made psychedelics and raising awareness of their benefits my passion ,and if you want me, that comes along.

While i have yet to find my next great love, or even a passionate going, i have made a connection with the two women i met and it was my passion for psychedelics that precipitated it. Broaching the subject with one, she revealed that she personally knew the Shulgins,and had received training from Anne in the use of entheogens in her psychotherapy practice! I'm interviewing her this weekend to get some content for my writing on the subject.

So, I've found that psychedelics are helping me make connections with people, rather than estranging me further from them.

So that isn't medicine to you ?

I really appreciate this thread; it's an issue that I've dealt with (especially since my breakup about 6 months ago). I work a "conventional" job right now where I sit behind a desk and wear a tie. So I tend to meet people who are of a similar lifestyle. The problem for me however is that that's NOT who I am. I am a Nexus member and I'm a very regular user of plant medicines. They're extremely important to me.

This true to such a case that, like a previous user commented, I had the DMT and psilocybin molecules both tattooed on my inner bicep (near my heart) as part of my sleeve. About a month ago I was getting more work done on my half-sleeve and was also on a second date with this girl, who I discovered didn't even use pot. I was telling her about the work (because she asked), but didn't know how to approach the DMT thing.

I've found that as far as having it tattooed on me, NO ONE knows what those molecules are, and if they do, then they're probably a DMT Nexus member, and you have nothing to worry about. When a coworker or someone "straight" asks, I say that they're endogenous neurotransmitters (1/2 true), or I'll say seritonin and caffeine. The worst thing that could happen is that they'll look at me and wonder why I got caffeine tattooed on me, but that's less of a problem than telling them that they're two Schedule-1 molecules.

With the girl who I mentioned, I knew from the start that it wouldn't work. She doesn't even smoke bud, and I smoke DMT 1-7 times a week... So I wasn't too invested. It was hard to figure out a nice way for me to explain that we weren't going to work out though. I thought that by telling her that I smoke a lot of weed, it would be the deal breaker, but she said that was okay.

I think that one of the best answers we've seen in this thread so far is the suggestion to start going to psychedelic gatherings and hopefully meet people of a similar interest. I struggle with that though, because I find that a lot of those gatherings are sooooo far out hippy that I can't even relate or I am unable to connect with the people who are already known heads of the scene.

Anyways, that's my 2 cents. Really great thread though. I think that it's an important issue to discuss.

Yeah, agreed. As an old dude, i find it very hard to tolerate things like crowds of sweaty hippies, lol.

However, out of curiosity i checked out one of those 'meet up' social network sites that connects people of similar interests in activities. For kicks and grins i listed the obvious as one interest. To my surprise, there's a meeting group across the Columbia that i may jump in my canoe and go to.

To be single, middle aged, and psychedelic. Sniff...

Well i am looking for a travel-partner.
A sober Princess is one giant red flag for me.

This is very close to my own situation. If you saw me at work, you probably wouldn't suspect I'd have an interest in psychedelics. It's tough to spend so much of your time pretending to be someone you're not.

I'm an intelligent "normal" guy who happens to find it fascinating that there are substances in existence that will open up a doorway to another dimension for 5-10 minutes. I don't understand how someone could not find that fascinating.

I don't really have any advice, but it's always good to know that there are others around who are going through a similar situation.

Love to the middle aged Psy-crew!!! Me too, I feel you brother. After leaving the world of Dead shows and raves (post addiction)I found out about the Schulgins and psychedelics as therapy and have returned home and find a whole new world.

I, like Continuum and others, found DMT after my relationship (now wife) started and after our children manifested into this world. She did however know that i use cannabis and had past experience with psychedelics. I also have fought the good fight against addiction and have been clean of those substances for many years now and still participate in recovery groups. On the situation the OP describes I would say that before I lie to another I have to lie to myself which is dangerous territory and my spiritual fitness is in then in jeopardy. For me that can set off a disasterous chain of events because my "disease" feeds on my feelings about myself and my relationships if I am being false.

Beware of those who have deep insecurities. Until they have done their work they can be vampires. Especially when their fear leads them to restrain your growth. (I have been this person). Hotness can be an addictive response that makes us lie to ourselves bout a person because we "want them".

In terms of my relationship we already had a strong trusting adventerous commitment and I discussed my interest before going in but in the end I did not ask for permission or forgiveness. I plainly showed her my journal post-experience. It was a bit like a trust fall and after I invited her to sit my first Changa exploration 1.5 years later her fears went away completely. She said afterward "I was expecting something to happen but all I saw was a meditation" The hardest thing for her was fear I would evolve past the relationship and to the contrary it has strengthened them.

This works on my wife. It may or may not work in your situation. But What I did was show her good clear documentary like: DMT the spirit molecule, Neurons to nirvana, and then the occasional Terence/Graham lecture. It seams to work. Just tell your partner the truth, the good the bad.

blows my mind this topic of conversation. in most states and scenes i have came across every one smokes pot and if they dont smoke dmt they dont have anything against it just against bad drugs.

One thing that does suck about smoking DMT around your wife/girlfriend/partner, I found out last night. I was trying out a new enhanced leaf mix I had made and it was a lot more potent than I expected. I was pretty far gone and my wife came out and started yelling at me about something, I have no idea what about. But holy crap she looked like a demon and at some stages like something out of Star Wars was not a nice experience. She felt really bad afterwards though haha.