Welcome. Extraction is not terribly hard. Just takes patience. Prayer has never come to mind while in dmt space, but I have some mantras that I use to help ground me.
And it may not be mu place, bit have you talked to your boyfriend about your concerns? Porn is like a drug. It can be fun when used responsibly and in moderation, but when used compulsively it can be very toxic. If he is neglecting your needs because of it, I would say that it is toxic behavior. Tell him how it makes you feel.
Anyway, glad to meet you and hope to see you around the boards.
It is by will alone that I set my mind in motion.
"Put the changa in the bonga! Make the spice much stronga!" - so says rOm and I!