Hey dude,
I'm not sure if any of this will help you, but I recently wrote my opinions on quitting smoking to a friend so might as well give it to you as well:
My theory on how to quit smoking is closely related to my hallucination about the structure about the time, which I have probably mentioned to you at some point.
Anyway, without going into that, hereâs the basic premise; wrote this a while ago to quit myself.
For me, the urge to smoke is not the biggest stumbling block to quitting. If you have the urge to smoke I think that the best way to overcome it is through distraction techniques. Every time you want to smoke, do something else, yoga, meditation, writing, whatever it is that you never do but want to. This way, that 5 minutes can be spent towards the achievement of a goal more constructive and more rewarding than giving up something you actually quite enjoy.
Secondly, you shouldnât harbour a desire to smoke, or a regret at quitting. If you feel this way then you might as well start smoking again. What you need to figure out is; do you actually want to quit? I wanted to quit â I didnât care about the risk of cancer, Iâve never been particularly bothered by the cost, but I didnât want my skin to dry out and become leathery, I didnât want my teeth to yellow, and most of all, I didnât want something to be in control of me.
You shouldnât harbour regret about not smoking, or miss it, once youâve made the decision to quit. This is a simple version of the âitâs happened, you canât change itâ principle, summed up in my favourite saying âthereâs no point crying over spilt milk.â Youâve decided not to smoke again, so why worry about it. In the long run youâll lose the desire to do it. [[[When I started smoking again after a long break I didnât like it again, it had really lost its luster, you forget how much you have to force it on yourself at the start]]]
About the nature of time: When you first quit smoking, the time between the last cigarette and now is very small. At first 10 minutes, then 1 hour, then maybe one or two days. It can be tempting to think that because itâs so small thereâs no point carrying on, itâll never get any bigger. But if you break it down into fragments of time, youâll be surprised how quickly it builds up; you get through one night, then a week, then two weeks. Eventually you havenât smoked for a month and it actually becomes a shame if you break it and smoke, rather than an annoying thing. Eventually you stop counting the days since your last cigarette and donât want one.
Also, as someone whoâs meandered between being a smoker and non-smoker, Iâve noticed a psychological pressure to smoke when in the presence of other smokers. Itâs as if, by not smoking, youâre letting them down when they offer you one. As if theyâre looking at you with different eyes, classing you with âthemâ, the non-smokers. However, what you need to realize is that their ultimate emotion is jealousy; theyâd rather have you with them smoking, not to respect you more, but so that you donât escape the addiction that they canât. If you stand with smokers while they smoke, and donât smoke, when you go inside, you realize that actually they didnât care, now that that moment has passed they no longer think about it, it makes no different to them now that you didnât smoke. Yet you walk away from the encounter one cigarette less smoked. Think of it like this; imagine you were quitting at the age of 18 and you ignored that psychological pressure for 6 months; do you think anyone from those episodes cares now? No. And they didnât care then. Itâs all in the mind. At the end of the day we are all ultimately alone, itâs your body and your mind and you make your own choices. If you decide not to smoke there is no physical or mental reason that you should.
Hope any part of that helped,
MZ
"Language is a cracked kettle on which we beat out tunes for bears to dance to, while all the time we long to move the stars to pity." - Flaubert
I do not engage in or condone illegal activities. Most of what I write is on behalf of people I've bumped into, usually several years ago and in countries where the things I mention are legal.