i had read about lucid dreaming in my teens, into my twenties. i was very into even just the idea of it. i tried and tried and, of course, the more i tried the further away i got. i noticed certain chemicals and medications made my dreams more vivid and memorable; but lucidity evaded me. while quitting cigs i had very vivid dreams while wearing my nic patches to bed. i was (mistakenly) mixed up with the high priests of psychiatry at the time, bad scene man...for me leastwise. i will admit, however, that, retrospectively, i learned a lot in my experiences with the men in white coats. i certainly was prescribed 'medications', and chemicals i would, otherwise, not be exposed to. anyhoo, i was first prescribed the tricyclic antidepressant Amitriptyline in 2002, or so. not long after i started realizing that not only did i remember my dreams, knew i was dreaming and could do what i wanted, (more or less); but ALSO my dreams took place in the same 'city-scape' every night. after a few years (on and off with Amitriptyline)my dreams each night picked up where i had left off the night before.
i am currently on a low dose of the Amitriptyline, not so much as an antidepressant, but for nerve damage in my back. -the medication is also used for neuropathy, any sort of pain, as a fill-in for the huge doses of opiates/oids i would need just to walk. my goal is no meds, of course, but it's complicated

.- SO, now i know where i'm going each night, and who i'll see...but not what will happen (so far!:lol

i noticed, fairly recently, that if my dog is whining to go out; the phone is ringing; kids crying, etc. i hear those 'outside' noises while 'inside' my dream. i am fully aware that it is a sound (or touch, or smell, or whatever) from my 'waking life'. i know i must get up, and act upon it. i occasionally have to do something nutty to wake up. the other night i could not wake up, i heard the dogs barking in awake world...it's like the sound is coming from the sky; but i know, in my sleep world, that the sound is from my awake world. i act upon the outside stimuli. in this instance i was forced to climb onto a dream table, in a dream restaurant, and basically dream face-plant into the dream concrete. i sat up straight in bed...breathing fast and hard. i don't usually have to do something so severe to wake up, but i was sleepin' HARD.
i'm fersure not saying anyone should try using tryciclics in order to lucid dream. i am not sure that's what started it. i have read a bit on the effects of that particular chemical on sleep pattern, on REM sleep, etc. there does seem to be at least a small connection. what that connection is, i couldn't currently say. WOW, i'm long-winded...sorry. when it started it was small pieces of dreams...scattered, fragmented, and forgettable; much like you described the guys putting there heads into the wall. a lot like that, actually. it's good that you wrote it down. i strongly believe that if i had been keeping a dream journal from 'go', it would have progressed faster. as it is now, as i start to lay myself down to sleep, as i slip into that twilight, i am aware (before i'm asleep) of what's coming. what, and who, i will encounter; just as when you awake in the morning you become aware of the things you're supposed to do that day, in awake world (i.e. going to work/school/meetings/friends you'll see, etc). all i know, really, is once i had those first glimpses of lucidity, it was not long before it grew and blossomed into it's own. i now feel as though my dream world is as important to my being, as my wakefulness(?)
my friends and family are aware of this happening. as 'crazy' as it might sound, the more the dreams and my awake life mingle, or overlap, the more content i become; awake and asleep.
P.S.-i am also a heavy MJ user, and it only occurred to me now, after reading your posts, that it does get more vivid during breaks. i'm also able to recall the dreams better, and they stick with me longer after i awake. good call...i hadn't made the connection. cheers!
Those who do not remember the past are condemned to repeat it. -Jim Jones