Here is a thought experiment: How would you approach a women if you already had all the women in the world that you could want. You don't need another women, you are just out for kicks, you have all the friends/support that you need, and you're social life is very complete. Now take 20 minutes and imagine this scenario, see you're self approaching over and over. Also, try imagining you're self approaching and interacting with women in the same way that you are. DO you notice a difference? Is there a different way in which you act? I read this quote and it really stuck with me ever since: "Success is a shadow. Chase it and it fades, but lead and it follows".

I hope this helps brother, we've all been there, everyone has those kinds of fears, but it's time to rise above them.

Here is another thought experiment: You are an living breathing spark of divinity. When you approach the right woman, everything is already negotiated. Her soul already gave permission, your soul too, the universe is rejoicing, the only thing necessary is to perform the ritual of communion of the two opposites. Every expression of your heart/soul is the true expression of the godhead. When in doubt, BREATHE!
Your love is the love of the universe.
Which woman can resist the love of a god?



Ask yourself: what is it that hinders you to be what you can be? What makes you smaller than you already are? What lesson do you need to learn in order to let go of these blockages?
WHAT IS IT?
Your fear? Shame? It is something you keep very close to you. You think it belongs to you. You identify yourself with it. Whatever it is, accept it and let it go.


If you want to get rid of it, you have to work on this problem day and night. Write these questions on paper and plaster your living space with it. Sit and meditate over these questions. Whenever a new question pops up, write it down, create a mind-map out of it. Go as deep as you can get.
If you want to accelerate the process, throw some plant teacher into the mix.
With the help of Aya and the two curanderos, it took me around 3 hours to process all my emotional/social blockages.
A week ago i was shy person.
Now i am something different.
I took the shortcut to heaven, but there are many ways.
Whatever path you follow, walk with your head high and breathe deeply, with conviction that you'll get there.

If all else fails, visit Amsterdam!

Oh, there are enough, trust me.

Good luck op, i got the same problem, just that women are not throwing themselves on me. Perhaps try to practice more awareness in these situations...then do not try to act, act...if they are seeking you, you are WANTED. What can go wrong ?

Just accept the nervousness as a part of who you are and overpower it with intuition and willfulness. Lo and behold your shyness will float away. The nerves are a part of being human. The girl that approaches you just works around the nervous energy but both of you are just that.. human.

Some good advice here man; also lookup David DeAngelo and his work. "Cocky/Funny" can carry you all the way but you must be careful if you are good looking; lower the cocky and up the funny so you don't seem like an actual douche!

Approach: Homework:

Do the Eye Contact Experiment by David Shade:
http://puarticles.blogsp...-contact-experiment.html

It is magic for your game!

"Don't put that pussy on a pedestal" ... "You are the prize".

The world is a big petting zoo; go have fun!

BTW I feel you are entirely correct about inner game; check out some Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) for self-confidence... it may be alot like what Triumph was saying...

Blessings.

Off topic, but... Do you follow any religious denomination ?

No, i don't. It is completely unnecessary to go through a religious representative who serves as an intermediary between you and the Divine.

how did you find sucha place, i would love to go, what are they called so i can look them up even thou i live in Australia maybe there is somehting here, is it just called Ayahuasca ceremonies?

iv been getting the feeling that my problem is due to some of my chakras not been activated or running efficiently. Because usually when your in a very good mood i can sense the energy flowing through your body, and thats why things go right for you. if you can activate the energy fields in your body you should be able to put your self in that feel good mood all times.

thanks

my problem isnt so much confidence its more that i get nurvous and panic and get lost for words, maybe i should have been more clear, shy might not be the right word not sure.

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well what goes wrong is that, because i used to have a negative self image and thought i didnt have chance with many girls etc, when girls throw them self on me i get nurvous and panic and dont know how to act, many occasions i didnt make a move and some occasions the girl thought i was bieng sleezy, maybe i have to practice staying calm and sopping my mind from going into thoughts and trying to work everything out

i agree with everything your saying and i know what you mean, but sometimes when i panic i forget all these things and thats when uncurtainty kicks in when i feel lost, and then there goes the confidence at that moment.

p.s iv been hunting for DMT and Aya for a while but no luck, and in my state there a re supposed to be many plants/trees of the bets quality but need more researrch

lol the funny thing is im not after sex or anything like that, it just bothers me i have a mental problem which is keeping me away from the expriences i want to exprience, such as ability to meet and get to know diffrent people in diffrent situations, if i dont get a girl i dont want it to be because of my weakness mentally to deal with the situation, thats what really burns me.

top advice, similar thoughts went through my head but i dont know why i never spent more time thinking about this, but by just reading what you wrote i can tell your spot on

if i could keep my mind silent for extended periods of times i could sort many problems out, but thoguths keep popping in and distracting me, and this is big part of my failiurs socially.

but thanks alot

im exactly the same of wanting alot of privacy, spending time by my self, living by my self etc

but then i thought maybe thats because i grew up anti-social/insecure minded due to enviromental reasons when growing up etc

but i do believe the right way is to treat everyone equal and like yourself and get to know as many people, because the more people you get to know the more you learn, you never know who knows what which may be of help to you.

i mean i could have kept my problems to my self, but now that i came on ehre and posted im very impressed by everyones replies and learned much more already and got to see things from diffrnt aspects and points of view

i know what you mean.

i was the same except my early life misery made me very violent person, with violent group of friends. Many friends are still like that and believe this is just how they are and this is how life is, but the more i thought and learnt the more i realised how wrongg i was, so i dont believe in the mentality that "this is just how i am" because you are the way you are due to enviromental/social reasons when growing up. your brain is a harddrive, and your life events/learnings taught to you by people or enviroment/events get programmed inyou. you are the way you are as a result of this programmings, and these programings can be changed, thats why im here with this thread, and i believe you can fix all your problems as well because the problems are mental

It seems you still got a negative self image. Have you tried affirmations, mirror affirmations ? If not, look it up

I love you guys! So much solid advice. It can be tough not being "skilled" with women. It's an area where insecurities and a sense of unworthiness can kreep in. It's a very corrosive energy and you shouldn't let it impact your life. This world is so huge and the people plentiful. You have 80 years on this planet, give or take. Is there a reason we should find a partner so quickly? Focus on your journey and do the things you love. If you walk about the trail at your own pace then most likley you will find other travelers to journey with. Changing your path or even your pace so that you can journey with some eyecandy doesn't sound like it benefits anyone does it? It's easeir to find people on the same path then to hop over to an adjacent one

If you have anxiety going into an interaction you should be aware that it's not a big deal. Keep a light heart! If you don't you might get a little fatigued. Everyone is human and at any point in time people are experiencing the full spectrum of emotions. Don't sweat the little stuff, maintain an attitude you enjoy and most likely you will find someone who enjoys it as well. The numbers are in your favor you just have to keep rolling the dice.

<3 + light

definetly no negative self image

Hate to break it to you, but different girls are going to think different things about you either way..good and bad..might as well give up on worrying about that now and just go about your way. If the right one comes along this wont seem all so hard..still you need to stop thinking so much and over-analyzing the situation.