I'll start off with a piece of my story
At age twelve, I thrived off of epitomies and epiphanies and "thought/feelings" - as i described the utter sense of knowledge, and awareness there of, that I could gain from just disconnecting myself from reservations, opinions, and general feelings I might have and really taking an objective view point of myself, others, human nature and religion, and hypothetical situations and personalities and the mix.. in order to better myself and be more responsible, spiritual, fun and loving, and intellectual.
In order to disconnect myself from my own views, well wasn't that hard, one, at such a young age, and further because I was always generally open-minded, willing, and honest. I felt a sense of serenity in my calm, rationalized, spiritual, SANE, objective mind frame. To me, in retrospect, I believe I was practicing a quasi-meditative state of mind, which proves to be beneficial for me in respect to my spiritual principles. But I also believe my personality couldn't flourish under my personal objectivity, I wouldn't consciously critique and inhibit but somehow that's what turnt outward. (Remember it's hard for me to be introspective of my past introspection, just as its hard to be aware of your awarness, pure consciousness in essence, I just gotta feel my way through and be patient and keep doing what works for me)
But I guess where this issue of responsibility for others really showed through for me was with my resentments towards my parents. Anger evolving into assertive aggression is really such a self defeating behavior.. I wanna say I dismissed my feelings and therefore any possibility for impulsivity simply so that I wouldn't have any learned behaviors from my father. I detached myself from any personalized connections with him, because he wasn't capable of being intimate (honest with himself) and I wanted to gain more out of my life, spiritually and emotionally as well, then he had even known to be possible.
People aren't readily apt to change. They are who they have know to be. To coerce everyone around you would take alot energy (spiritual, mental, emotional, physical), more than humanly possible actually. It would take a power greater than yourself to do so because you would need all the qualifications of a god to precicesly follow through. The one idea that you should hold onto is that in this world, you only have control over yourself. Set an example if you may, as the others wrote and just try to live your own life to the fullest. And besides, you can awlways learn a little sumthin extra,
"Being knowledgeable is an addiction, except the high never has to fade and the supply is everlasting."
This is the place.