That's your experience. I haven't used Spice yet, but Sage gave me some of the most important lessons and some of the most beautiful moments of my life... and still I fear to go there. For some Sage is hell, for others it's heaven, most of the time it's both. For me it's the gate to the realm of a female entity that expects to be treated respectfully. She'll give you what you earned, or you might just get one of her tempers. Just smoking leaves (or extract) is not sufficient. The plant is just a doorway.

I like how everyone else refers to as salvia being a "her". Because, when I did it a few hours ago. It felt as if I was in the presence of a mother. A female god of sorts. I didn't lose my conciousness at all, I was still mentally intact fully. I didn't transend into any different realms, or see my light. Nor did I learn anything from it. But the mild trip at which I was at, it felt. Dirty. It was nice. But dirty. Not only because I personally think salvia tastes like dirt, but I got really warm and sweaty, and it put my mind into a big jumble. As if, if it were to take my anywhere, my mind was so lost and almost drunken, that I wouldn't be able to pull anything from it.

What would be the right set of mind to approach her? Deep Respect? Submission? What does she expect in return?

Deep submission and respect.

Keep your mind open and pay attention to what she tells you.