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Yeah xylene is an alternative but it smells very nasty and evaporates slow, plus you can't freeze precipitate it like with DMT..
What people who use xylene do is salt out the xylene with an acidic solution to remove the DMT, and then freebase it in another way. You can check out BLAB tek for example, just substitute the word "limonene" for "xylene" and it should work the same.