Sounds like you did not made mistakes in the brewing.
3.5gr powdered should work like you made it, I would not exceed 4.5 thb.
Potency variance between whole or powdered seeds has never been a describable difference ime.
Wood could be a dud, with normal wood I'd never need to rise above 7 gr wood, good for 140mg representative spice.
It is possible to have the dose stationary parked in the stomach for hours before it gets assimilated, I consider 2 hours quite possible. If you had this happening then the vomit at t+90mins could have lost considerable part of dose. With oral it's uncertain if it's gonna hit soon (say t+45mins) or much longer.
45mins between rue and mimo is long, make that 15 mins or take together.
Hope for progress