What do you guys think about it?

Really? Is that a real question?

God thinks it's bad. So do Tea Party Republicans. As did Jerry Falwell. Jerry never engaged in hot bus station sex with teenage boy runaways until after he was married, so I believe it is bad as well.

I don't think mantis get married before they bang.

Well, having not had the other kind I have no basis for comparison but...

It's pretty f'n awesome!!!

Hyperspace tavern... Jea right

Would you buy a car without test driving it? Intimacy is too important to a relationship to leave to chance.
The last thought I want on my honeymoon is, "Damn, that wasn't good."

I do not believe that marriage holds any real value, so bang on.

Marriage is an arrangement, invented tens of thousands of years ago. I think the main purpose of marriage was, to ensure that men, after having donated some genetic material, stay around and help taking responsability for the life they´ve thus helped creating.

To many people, marriage also has a spiritual dimension.

As religious freedom is a basic human right, the only thing that realy matters is how YOU feel about it.

If you feel that premarital sex is in contradiction with your own spiritual beliefs, i think it would indeed be wrong for YOU to practice it, even if it where just because it would mean that according to your own beliefs you would be condemning someone to spent eternity in hell.

I don´t belief that there is such a thing as hell, myself.
The existance of a thing like hell sounds absurd to me.

But regardless of that, i don´t think that someone who would genuinely belief that he is condemning another person to spent eternity there, just because he wants to enjoy some earthly pleasures, is acting ethically.

So it highly depends on who you are and what your views on life are, imo.
Just as with the 'sex before, during or shortly after ayahuasca' issue.

Don´t do what you think is bad, but respect the fact that the rest of us may think and feel differently.

I find people who don't partake fascinating. It's not something I think I could/ would endure - sex is a big part of chemistry imo, what if you got along great but sexy time was utterly uninspiring?

If you are going to get married, I think that not having premarital sex might be the biggest mistake of your life.

In any case, it is of course a personal decision. I'd just ask you, if you are to make that decision, to calmly consider the reasons why some cultures and beliefs have condemned systematically premarital sex.

Why would anyone want you to abstain from sex before signing a contract? Some possible answers:

- To force you into that contract. AKA coercion. Solution: Realize the reasons why they want you married. Most likely, after that, give them the finger and fully explore your relationship before making serious commitments.
- To make sure there won't be tricky unwanted pregnancy situations. Solution: Contraceptives. If they won't let you use contraceptives, again, give them the finger.
- To follow a tradition. But often traditions are badly grounded, and things have changed. So that reason, IMO, deserves another swift finger.

Don't belittle sex. If sex doesn't work, your relationship will most likely be incomplete and unhappy.

Yeah I know, I didn't know what would be more appropriate though

Some religions have specific definitions of the word 'sex'. That´s why bill clinton could do whathever he wanted with 'that women, miss lewinsky', without officially having sex.

I wana know what you think about it

He also rooted his defense in the definition of IS

And remember class, without IS there's no jISm

As for pre-maritime sex, I'd have to counter all opponents by saying, there's no sex like sex on the high seas, yarrrrrrrrrrrrgh

I'll say this much... it's a hell of a lot better than post-marital sex!

I think that sex is a primal instinct. As humans we get urges, so we act on them. If you read any of Ayn Rands work, I think she portrays the sexual desire very well.

Not to derail your thread here, bub, but Ayn Rand was a Nazi bitch and a dangerously shallow idealogue. If you're looking to her for a) your politics, b) intellectual stimulation, or c) hot sex tips, you've got a couple of problems.

They all hate it? I'm DEFINITELY down!

well, I like it.