I see healing allot more than just cultural deprogramming, building yourself up, accepting what is, letting go of past blinders, etc. I see healing as a process of understanding in acceptance of what works to resolve incongruities in how our living organism (brain and all) impedes it's own maximum healthy growth in relation to the living systems it is dependent upon as much as it serves in betterment of self.
This is less than 1% of how I see and practice the facilitation of healing (However I would never claim I did any of this for other persons, I simply made them aware of things already inside themselves)
Gather all you have suffered, learned, experienced, let go of, grown from, conceptualized, felt, reshaped, healed with, and worked inside your head, and look to a universal disclaimer on all healing. It can be argued anyone professing they were healed by another really healed within themselves. The intent, depth of understanding, quality of communication, receptivity, and depth of inquiry work to widen the breadth and conceptual framework people are working with inside themselves. The mindfulness one practices (one conceptual jump to another) has a place to play with a focused intent. Only congruency in your highest ideal, belief, concept, and what order your priorities in life are in relation to your base nature will establish a groundwork foundational enough upon which effective inner work can be established. When our responsibility for ourselves is strengthened regardless if it is by self acceptance for that role as mediator within, or an outside belief system we let hijack our inner realm, it has to be fluid, but autonomous without reassurance from the sense of influence from another persons will or power. Confidence is as much congruency between intent, action, and though as it is a facilitator of an almost em-pathogenic capacity for change within our mental framework.
Depending on the work to be accomplished, it befalls us to humble ourselves to the possibility that most "healing" people do internally (without thinking about it) comes from a sort of mental adaptability constituent upon a number of faculties there from derives an understanding that a number of cognitive tools necessitate change, others predicate it. Then there are the cognitive tools that either build or dissolve resistance (lack of acceptance) towards the belief in the ability and inner power to heal one's self in the first place.
I feel it is within us all collectively the responsibility to put to work (with the least effort possible in pure concept) the formula of language, wording, vocabulary, conceptual frameworks, and facilitation that comes from a life lived to gain experience in order to pass it on from one being into the purest intention of a good heart. When the heart speaks the mind listens. Mirror neurons allow empathy to touch common places inside our neurological / biological response mechanism within our brains. Once we see through each other in finding ourselves in one another, we loosen up our will for defensiveness, and / or our need to assert ourselves over another. This is where authentic transmutation of pure concept is derived. From this place we can objectify the language we use internally as coping mechanisms, and really get to the bottom of our underlying weaknesses, insecurities, and vulnerabilities in a manner in which their is perfect trust in how we begin to address said mechanisms for interaction within. From there you can ask yourself if said part of you really functions in the way that is best for your being without inhibition over what you choose to be.
By carefully examining upon reflection these shifts we have conditioned within ourselves we put our finger on the pulse of our character often for the first time since we were children. To point something out allows change. Without having solidity inside and throughout with how you treat yourself and the world our resolve waivers. Unjustified fear of taking action, initiating change, or a habit of sustained inaction restrict malleability.
Strip away everything until you are down to the animistic, reptilian, tribal, shadow-self tendencies; (self destructive at base) and learn to play within them in such a way for mutual acceptance for "what we are" while limiting misgivings that arise from submitting to "destructive impulsive drives" while choosing and acknowledging aspect of them we can use.
Simultaneously direct this raw primal energy into our art, self exploration, dance, creativeness, and other aspects of our life in order that our will to live is not inhibited by our lifestyle. Safe boundaries need to be drawn around how we can use our impulsive desires without a moderation that causes taboo, a restrictiveness that feels restrained, or an over indulgence that necessitates abstaining from said behavior in order to re-establish desire for it. There should be healthy ways to understand the physiological responses we receive from performing said behaviors in order to understand where the desire arises from in the first place. I think by becoming one with your baser nature while maintaining a personal code of civility for living within and throughout one is setting up a temperance between man's divided nature. This system helps to established self regulation inside. Once one takes responsibility carefully guarding how their mood makes impressions upon others they may begin to find a will to not leave another person with an abundance or deficit of energy. (contingent upon how your mind & mood are doing)
Once one has all this, they have thousands of questions inside. They must be at a place to question why those impressions arise from looking within. Sometimes listening within is the best teacher after all. Sometimes not. It's so circumstantial it's impossible to cover all aspects. Energy work is good, and so are hundreds of other modalities of healing practiced professionally and otherwise. My opinion is the effectiveness of the mirrors the facilitator provides are only as effective as the mirrors the one receiving assistance has between their shadow, inner, and outer selves.
Healing involves the mind, emotion, nervous system, health, diet, exercise, sleeping patterns, psychological makeup, history, belief systems, and so many other aspects that to take credit for such a fundamental change inside of another person is for the most point irrelevant. All we can do is lead by example, and share. Sometimes we share because we feel a need to empathize with another without asking their permission. It is a fine line between intellectual vanity, and a sincere will power to help another person. No person who assumes they know all the answers is receptive enough to delve inside another persons psyche deep enough to really know how and if what we do truly heals. On the other hand, I have seen pure child like unconditional love asking for nothing in return change people for the better.
I= SWIM = Not Me. The I AM I Does Not Exist, and is Referenced to SWIM Who Is Not A Friend I Never Met, Nor Hallucinated While Imagining The Is-ness of Suchness That Is SWIM Who Is Not Me, Myself, Nor I As The Expression Of Non Dual Aspect of Non-Dual Reality Subjectively Denied By Swim, or accompanying Me-Anti-ness'es. =) All Credit Goes To The ANTI-SWIM'ness of SWIM's cousin's room-mate's uncle's deceased cat's in-law's second removed nephew's aunt WHOM authored SWIM's 2000 Year Old Desert Scribblings from a drunk rabbit in the Serengeti desert found in an insane asylum under water, on Easter eggs, crucified by the on fire pagan music listening christian maniac from India running around believing he was Jesus repenting this bush he called the Acacia tree; So I Heard from a bum who claims to be SWIM, But I Forgot... And Again, "I" Refers To Someone Who Is Not Me.