I haven't explored this area as much as I want yet because I still have too much work to do on myself before I can commit to more than one relationship.
I definitely feel like the world of polyamory is opening up and has a lot of potential for breaking down peoples limiting beliefs on sex.
I'm sorry to hear about the chick who toyed with you guys.
There are a couple of poly sites called
http://www.polymatchmaker.com and
http://www.polymatcher.comThere are quite a few poly women on
http://www.okcupid.com as well.
I have used okc and I highly recommend it.
It can be fun just don't get your expectations too high.
I'm sure that there are some spirituality based dating sites for heart centered relationships as well.
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