Hallucinations of pain, were a part of the normal daily experience of all long term addicts of opium derivatives. There is a saying about opium in China, that it takes the pain away but still hurts.
So my first thought was that you need the information about whether the two friends who held and lite your pipe, have had that experience.
My second thought is that such phenomenon are also mentioned in old homeopathy literature, which includes many such sensations, listed as disease symptoms, and called "Sensations as if".
My third thought, is that you might well be quite correct, in that DMT could potentially be always like that. It might be worth research from other folk. And worth the question, that if others say "No", I don't want the pain, does that not mean they have inadvertently corroborated you? Or do they still need to let somebody give them a pipe and lite it, to be sure?
I think I like the question as a research question, "Does DMT always, or often, create sensations as if a physical cause of pain were present, aka somatic hallucinations of pain, when the pipe is held and lite by another person, or only when that other person was...........(fill in the blank)."
a mother a daughter a lover of life, an exorcist of addictions if ere in need of the strife, and at bottom line a wife, I might well be a bore, yet have no doubt, I stand among the poor, and beg not what for, that hat hath at, nobody's mind fell too flat